Oh I’m a hot mess right now and only my remarkable ability to block things out is keeping my head above water. I can’t even get past the anxiety and move out.
The sexism is purely since I started working in the bike industry. Once it was me and my male supervisor behind the counter. I was literally building a bike and a customer came to the counter asking if someone can advise her. The supervisor was busy with admin, so I got up and said I can. And she said, I mean I need someone who knows about bikes.
I was literally building a bike!
But usually I get this crap from men. Usually in the form of asking if there are any men around or just immediately assuming I know nothing because I’m a woman, even though I’m more highly trained than many of my colleagues.
Oh man. I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds like you’re having a tough time. Far be it from me to ask, so don’t feel as though you need to, but are you getting any professional help? It has been enormously beneficial to me in the past and I highly recommend it. I’ve had a rough year myself as my baby daughter sadly passed away. At times it doesn’t feel like there is much left to life other than your current state of mind but if you can assure yourself that’s not the case and that things will gradually get better then they will. I wish you luck in your struggle.
That story about the sexism sounds like the result of entrenched views on masculinity and ignorance. Absolutely daft. Hopefully you taught her a lesson that day. I find younger people generally more understanding of the equality between genders (excluding all the manosphere bollocks). I’m positive it will keep improving as it has done steadily over the years, though more acceptance would be better!
Thank you for the blog. I’ll try and make sense of it aha. I’ll read the Nitter post too when I’m ready. Have you ever watched Adam Curtis documentaries? He’s incredible. There was a clip where some Asian shop owners in the 80s were beong harassed by drunk Englishmen in a really racially abusive manner. It made me realise that whilst we have a long way to go the current attitudes are also quite a distance from where they used to be.
Side note: Do you partake in any form of political activism? As a not very young but not very old person I’m sort of stuck looking for ways to make a difference in the community and have some kind of impact on change, even if it’s small. You seem like someone who would possibly have ideas about all that. I could be wrong!
Oh I’m a hot mess right now and only my remarkable ability to block things out is keeping my head above water. I can’t even get past the anxiety and move out.
The sexism is purely since I started working in the bike industry. Once it was me and my male supervisor behind the counter. I was literally building a bike and a customer came to the counter asking if someone can advise her. The supervisor was busy with admin, so I got up and said I can. And she said, I mean I need someone who knows about bikes.
I was literally building a bike!
But usually I get this crap from men. Usually in the form of asking if there are any men around or just immediately assuming I know nothing because I’m a woman, even though I’m more highly trained than many of my colleagues.
Here’s my mastodon thread
https://autistics.life/@SilverArrows/114211836159611397
I don’t think nitter works anymore, but here’s my uncle’s experience growing up Indian in the UK. Warning, very racist language and traumatic experiences. Edit: nitter still works!
https://nitter.net/HovellingHermit/status/1270701202188222465#m
Oh man. I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds like you’re having a tough time. Far be it from me to ask, so don’t feel as though you need to, but are you getting any professional help? It has been enormously beneficial to me in the past and I highly recommend it. I’ve had a rough year myself as my baby daughter sadly passed away. At times it doesn’t feel like there is much left to life other than your current state of mind but if you can assure yourself that’s not the case and that things will gradually get better then they will. I wish you luck in your struggle.
That story about the sexism sounds like the result of entrenched views on masculinity and ignorance. Absolutely daft. Hopefully you taught her a lesson that day. I find younger people generally more understanding of the equality between genders (excluding all the manosphere bollocks). I’m positive it will keep improving as it has done steadily over the years, though more acceptance would be better!
Thank you for the blog. I’ll try and make sense of it aha. I’ll read the Nitter post too when I’m ready. Have you ever watched Adam Curtis documentaries? He’s incredible. There was a clip where some Asian shop owners in the 80s were beong harassed by drunk Englishmen in a really racially abusive manner. It made me realise that whilst we have a long way to go the current attitudes are also quite a distance from where they used to be.
Side note: Do you partake in any form of political activism? As a not very young but not very old person I’m sort of stuck looking for ways to make a difference in the community and have some kind of impact on change, even if it’s small. You seem like someone who would possibly have ideas about all that. I could be wrong!