Managed to finally get around to self-hosting ntfy, added that to uptime kuma as notifications, experimenting with Checkcle, stood up a invidious instance for funsies (prob will see how much i use it, but might as well).

Ahh, thank you for clarifying. Sorry :/

True, but the point is you don’t need cloudflare or tailscale (i know headscale exists), so end to end you can likely trust it.

In addition to Netbird, I also suggest Pangolin, https://pangolin.net/ it’s quite efficient at what it does but either way would work fine if you want to self host it.