They met at a bar in midtown Manhattan. He arrived wearing a baseball cap pulled low and sported a pair of black-framed glasses, she says. As conversation flowed, from discussions about navigating life in New York to past relationships, he mentioned that his glasses were Meta Ray-Bans.

“I wasn’t familiar with them,” McAnuff, a 28-year-old project manager who now lives in Toronto, tells WIRED. It was her first time seeing the smart glasses up close, which can record images and video from the wearer’s viewpoint. He let her try them on and even showed her a couple of videos that he’d taken previously, she says. “That was it. We stopped talking about it after that. I figured that was the end of the use.”

The next day, checking her Instagram, McAnuff noticed she’d been tagged in one of his story posts. To her surprise, it was footage of them at the bar and on the subway together, en route to a basketball game uptown. In the video, McAnuff is captured from an above angle, sitting across from her date who is holding a drinking glass; WIRED has seen screenshots of the footage. “I felt super violated,” McAnuff says. “Like, what if I don’t want everyone knowing what I’m up to? He felt so free to film me and post it. There was no conversation about it.”

Meta sold more than 7 million pairs of the Ray-Bans in 2025, as its smart glasses have infiltrated public spaces thanks to pranksters with dreams of viral fame, some of whom even film people while they’re at work. The phenomenon, which has also spread to pickup artists hitting on women, has earned the hardware the nickname “creep glasses.”

Among singles, and particularly women, Meta’s AI-powered eyewear has become a recurring nuisance, as people share a spreading unease about being covertly filmed on dates.

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    Do you have stories of women or non-binary people abusing these glasses?

    I’m sincerely asking.

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      I think remember reading one about a South Korean lady wearing them on dates and feeding the footage into Claude to analyze and improve her dating skills.

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        That’s interesting! The article goes into some men using the glasses for the same thing:

        Gary Lewandowski, a psychology professor at Monmouth University whose research focuses on the science of romantic connection, says adding covert cameras to the mix will only make building trust harder. He says beyond posting for the ’gram, a number of factors could be driving men to do this. The most logical, non-creepy reason may be tied to post-date analysis, in that the glasses can help men identify blind spots around their own behavior.

        “A lot of men out there are eternal optimizers. They want better, more efficient ways of doing things, so reviewing game tape allows them to learn from mistakes,” Lewandowski says. “But I do wonder if some are doing it to build a case instead of a connection—why they’re right and the other person is wrong—or to help better identify red flags.” That type of surveillance “makes the date less about getting to know each other and more about fact gathering,” he adds.

        I can see the benefits of that approach as long as the person being recorded is aware of what they’re being used for.

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      I have no stories of anyone abusing these glasses other than the small handful of anecdotes in the article that can fit on one hand.

      And as the article points out, 7M of these glasses were sold, so 2-3 stories is not exactly statistically significant or relevant.

      I can find you numerous stories of female stalkers and creeps using cellphones though, if that is would help.

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        This is far from the first article I’ve seen covering these glasses. Many of them are posted to this community.

        I’d honestly be interested to see if women and non-binary people are similarly abusing privacy issues with these glasses and in what circumstances. I haven’t seen it reported.

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          Also, the article headline is that ‘men wearing smart glasses on dates is a red flag’…

          Regardless of the stats of who is being creepy currently, the headline is still wrong and needlessly gendered as anyone who wears them on a date is a red flag.

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            Talking about men who wear smart glasses on dates doesn’t mean that everyone else who wears smart glasses is innocent.

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              :/

              Come on now. My point is that the headline is needlessly divisive.

              Do you really think that distinction changes that?

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                  You seem real pleasant to be around, the real type of person that draws people to their cause and doesn’t just alienate everyone!

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        I can find you numerous stories of female stalkers and creeps using cellphones though, if that is would help.

        No, the topic is the smart glasses and their use to intrude on other’s privacy.

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          So new smart technology with cameras come out, people across the gender spectrum use them to be creeps (smartphones).

          Now new smart technology with cameras come out (smart glasses), and you think the more valid evidence to look at is a handful of anecdotal stories, rather than applying similar statistics from the previous technology?

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            You’re conflating me with the author of the article.

            “Men that wear smart glasses” is not the same as “Men” to be clear. People who wear smart glasses with the intention of recording others without their consent is the topic here.

            I haven’t seen any articles or stories about women or non-binary people abusing smart glasses and I’m curious to read more if there are stories out there on that topic.

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              Are you implying that no women or non-binary people have at any point abused smart glasses? That’d be a statistically impossibilty considering at least 7 million creep glasses have been sold.

              If not, and you agree that there has at some point been women or non-binary people abusing the glasses, simply through sheer statistics, then the headline is needlessly gendered.

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                Are you implying that no women or non-binary people have at any point abused smart glasses? That’d be a statistically impossibilty considering at least 7 million creep glasses have been sold.

                Of course not. I’m asking if there are articles covering the topic of women and non-binary people abusing smart glasses. I’d like to see the circumstances and if there are any differences. I’m honestly curious.

                This article is focused on the men who wear smart glasses on dates. That doesn’t mean no one else is abusing these glasses.