The biggest fight I’ve ever had with a friend in my life was when she posted photos of me without my permission and I asked her to take them down. It wasn’t anything lascivious, I was just having tea at her house and she posted a picture, but I was going for a minimal digital footprint.
She took down the photo and then posted an insane rant about how she was CENSURED and she had to delete a post. It was so petty and I think she felt like she was edgy and people would side with her. She deleted the speech after a few days.
This was before the time of AI, but I wholeheartedly agree with you. No one is entitled to use your photos as content without their permission.
Way to figure out who to cut out of your social circle. That doesn’t sound like a healthy person to be around.
I always hated having fotos of me taken. The one and only exception I will make is for fotos of me in certain cosplays when I’m in a bigger group because I am not really recognisable on those and a group helps hide me specifically even more.
I forgave her at the time, but you’re right. It was such a big red flag that should have warned me of so many things that came in the future. At her core, she couldn’t respect boundaries if they didn’t agree with her plans.
Sadly it’s very human to want to cling to connections we have, even if they’re incredibly unhealthy. =/
Congrats to you for eventually figuring out and getting away! I hope she didn’t cause too much damage.
That’s super sweet of you to ask. I was really depressed for several years, but I recovered. She was a big part of my life for a very long time and let her mask slip incrementally until I was left holding my head, confused as to how I let it get that bad.
But no matter how bad things get, I’m always surprised at how resilient humans can be!
I usually don’t go out of my way to explain privacy to people, but I have to explain to almost every new acquaintance that I don’t have to have a particular reason to refuse being in photos. One of the most egregious cases went in the line of “I hung out with that kind of famous guy once and he asked me not to post pictures of him, I can understand that, but why would you, a nobody, refuse being in pictures!?”
Saddest part is that even people who agree to not take pictures of you without further explanaion will usually throw quips at you every time there is a camera nearby.
The biggest fight I’ve ever had with a friend in my life was when she posted photos of me without my permission and I asked her to take them down. It wasn’t anything lascivious, I was just having tea at her house and she posted a picture, but I was going for a minimal digital footprint. She took down the photo and then posted an insane rant about how she was CENSURED and she had to delete a post. It was so petty and I think she felt like she was edgy and people would side with her. She deleted the speech after a few days.
This was before the time of AI, but I wholeheartedly agree with you. No one is entitled to use your photos as content without their permission.
Way to figure out who to cut out of your social circle. That doesn’t sound like a healthy person to be around.
I always hated having fotos of me taken. The one and only exception I will make is for fotos of me in certain cosplays when I’m in a bigger group because I am not really recognisable on those and a group helps hide me specifically even more.
I forgave her at the time, but you’re right. It was such a big red flag that should have warned me of so many things that came in the future. At her core, she couldn’t respect boundaries if they didn’t agree with her plans.
Sadly it’s very human to want to cling to connections we have, even if they’re incredibly unhealthy. =/ Congrats to you for eventually figuring out and getting away! I hope she didn’t cause too much damage.
That’s super sweet of you to ask. I was really depressed for several years, but I recovered. She was a big part of my life for a very long time and let her mask slip incrementally until I was left holding my head, confused as to how I let it get that bad. But no matter how bad things get, I’m always surprised at how resilient humans can be!
I usually don’t go out of my way to explain privacy to people, but I have to explain to almost every new acquaintance that I don’t have to have a particular reason to refuse being in photos. One of the most egregious cases went in the line of “I hung out with that kind of famous guy once and he asked me not to post pictures of him, I can understand that, but why would you, a nobody, refuse being in pictures!?”
Saddest part is that even people who agree to not take pictures of you without further explanaion will usually throw quips at you every time there is a camera nearby.
I’ve gotten that too. It’s almost like you’ve personally offended them. It’s such a weird reaction.
Pretty sure it’s addiction. They need to be posting about what happens in their lives on social media and you’re between them and their fix.