Hi everyone. I’m a senior Computer Engineering student and my girlfriend is a senior Mechanical Engineering student.
She is caring, cute, clever and really thoughtful. I love everything about her. But the one thing that always bugs me out is the amount of AI she uses.
When we met 2 years ago the first topic we talked about was about AI and ever since that day I always mentioned her the advancements and dangers of AI. I said how there can’t be ethical AI and any use of it is harmful.
She agrees with me every time and says she will decrease her usage but at the end she uses it still. Projects, reports, homeworks all go through the LLM. She shows me her work and I can’t congratulate her without forcing myself because I know it’s AI.
She has diagnosed ADHD and I think this might be one of the reasons but I still don’t understand. She sometimes spends hours working. If she had spent that time with pen and paper she could’ve reached the same conclusions she did with AI but with more understanding of her work.
I don’t want to upset her but also seeing someone this close to me do this is saddening to me. What should I do? Should I just ignore it?
Idk, part of being in a relationship with an adult is acknowledging their autonomy. Where is the line between having an active college social life and a drug or alcohol problem? Sometimes that’s clear cut sometimes not. If it starts affecting their academic life you can voice your concerns but if you’re not ok with how they respond including ignoring you, you have to choose between not bringing it up again or leaving.
Maybe you also aren’t seeing the issue objectively either maybe the AI usage is being done responsibly and your GF is actually getting a real understanding of the material. I’m not saying I know everything, but might be worth considering if this is you externalizing your fears and concerns and this is maybe a legitimate difference in how both of you choose to engage with this technology.